Well That's something that is common to all the Muslim World. All these taboos and no discussions about it (sex).
I completely endorse what she says. Talking about sex and discussing its
ins and outs is not bad at all. Apparently it's sex in marriage
that I am talking about. Islam does not forbids sex education at all, nor
the discussion, nor the intimation, nor the sexual love and the like.
Until and unless we keep this discussion to those for whom it is
necessary and in a married relationship, it is completely legal, Islamic
and even endorsed by the Holy Prophet. Here I'll relate an incident. It
is a famous one. Though I do not know any references.
Once a companion of the Prophet (P.B.U.H) married and it was a divorced
(and older) Muslim lady that he chose to marry. When he (R.A) came to
the dearest Prophet, the Prophet asked him, "Why didn't you marry
someone your age? You would play with her and she with you."
Now what did the Rehmatullill 'aalameen (means: peace for all the
worlds) (P.B.U.H) meant here by playing. Clearly it was enjoying each-others company.
Now about coming to teaching it to unmarried people. In Islam it is the
RESPONSIBILITY OF PARENTS to do this. A mother must tell her daughter
about it and how she should approach this. The daughter can even be told
how to do it. Otherwise how would she know what Islam in reality says
about it. And the father ought to tell the boy.
If the parents do not do this, they are not doing their job. AND THEY
WILL BE MADE TO FEEL THE RESPONSIBILITY (the harsh way) ON THE DAY OF
QAYYAMAH.
I do understand the sensitive thinking of some of my brothers and
sisters to this issue but that is unfounded in Islam. Yes you must be
cautious of who you are discussing with (It is an anomaly - the one that
baffles me- that we cannot/do not discuss it with our parents and talk
whatever nonsense comes to our minds with our 'friends' - the same
friends who are as inexperienced as we.) So instead of taking sin on
your head SISTERS PLEASE PLEASE DO DISCUSS IT WITH YOUR MOTHERS. And if
she thinks that you should not do it even with her than find a teacher
(HUGE CARE MUST BE TAKEN HERE), one like "Mama" Widad. And if you cannot
do this as well. THEN JUST DO SABR (be patient) until after you get
married. And discuss it with your husband.
This is really sensitive because it can go wrong (the discussion and
with whom to do this discussion). So the bottom line it all comes down to again is the
same old adage which we talk a lot of but do not act upon . And that is:
"Teach the women (mothers here). If we teach the women we teach a
nation."
This was my reply to an article that got published at MSN Arabia.
Hers is the link:
http://arabia.msn.com/news/middleeast/afp/2012/february/12797013/uae-islamic-love-guru-urges-women-enjoy-sex.aspx
What do you say?
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